Actions speak louder than words. You probably already knew that but as human beings, we have a remarkable ability to justify our actions and downright lie to ourselves. Developing some awareness of that innate ability can make all of us much more effective human beings.
Two skills you need to be constantly developing if you want to be happy and successful:
1.) Develop the maturity to be factually honest with yourself about the choices you make and what they say about your true priorities.
"You deserve honesty from the heart; yes, utter sincerity and truthfulness. Oh, give me this wisdom." -Psalm 51:6
2.) Be kind to yourself and learn that chastising yourself relentlessly for shortcomings only works against your desire for success and happiness.
"To acquire wisdom, is to love yourself; people who cherish understanding will prosper." -Proverbs 19:8
An effective balance between the two can be difficult to find. I encourage you to begin working on applying this wisdom to our journey as competitive CrossFit athletes. Here's an important truth to take to heart:
When we are committed to something, we accept only results. When we are merely interested in something, we only do it when it is convenient.
- Committed: Gets all of it done consistently. Shows up to the gym an hour early because they a work dinner that evening. Doesn't mess around between portions of training when under a time crunch.
- Interested: Skips long running workouts because they "Just don't have enough time to do everything today." Doesn't show up at all some days because of aches and pains when they know that their coach can easily help them work around a torn hand, knee tendinitis, a tweaked shoulder, etc.
- Committed: Follows their program no matter what bumps life throws their way.
- Interested: Follows their program Monday-Friday when they are in their regular routine then when the weekend comes along, they eat as much of whatever sounds good. Birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, office parties, lunch meetings, or other special occasions throw them off course regularly.
- Committed: Is in bed, lights out, with no phone, computer, or TV a minimum of 7 hours before their alarm is set to go off.
- Interested: Stays up to watch "just one more episode" on Netflix before going to bed then hits the snooze button three times and shows up 10 minutes late to class looking super tired. Misses out on training with the most beneficial training partners because "too early".
There's nothing inherently wrong with being an "interested" athlete. More things in life just take priority over being the best athlete they can be and that's okay. We all have the individual responsibility to choose where our time and energy go.
Problems only arise when you accept the illusion that you are "committed" to something just because you say you are. Here is another truth to take to heart:
An "interested" athlete that has convinced themselves of the lie that they are "committed" is going to feel robbed when they get "interested" results.
These athletes tend to be less happy and experience less success. They also tend to be more frustrated and angry with their lack of progress. They blame their shortcomings on other people and their circumstances because in the reality they have created, what the have reaped doesn't match what they have sewn.
My hope after reading this is that you will begin to reflect on your ability to make conscious choices. If we work consistently at aligning our choices with our priorities, experience tells me we will get somewhere worth going!